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What is the Ego?

The Ego is a functional mask — a false image we use to navigate the world. It's built out of labels we didn't choose: our name, religion, profession and social status.

The problem isn't the mask. It’s that we’ve forgotten we’re wearing it. But this "forgetting" isn't accidental. And not just that, it is like a Chain or a Monster that keeps you in bondage. It has a life of its own, and it survives by "feeding" on external things: praise, validation and being "right". As long as you feed the monster what it wants, the chain stays strong. You remain a prisoner to what people think of you.

Who are you in reality?

Vedanta tells us that your true nature is Sat-Chit-Ananda: Eternal Consciousness, Presence, and Peace.

Think of a professional actor. She may play the role of a warrior today and a beggar tomorrow. On stage, she feels the emotions of the character, but deep down, she always knows who she truly is. She never confuses the script with her life.

Most of us have forgotten we are the actor because the Ego-Monster has convinced us we are the script. When the script goes wrong — when we face criticism, failure or "silence" on social media — we suffer because we think we are being destroyed.

What is the Solution?

The solution is Dis-identification.

By lowering your Ego Quotient (EQ), you learn to "slice the link" between the actor and the role. You stop feeding the monster its favorite foods — praise and validation — and instead, you challenge it. You begin to realize that while the character may face challenges, the Real You remains untouched, silent and free.

To break free, you must do the one thing the monster hates: Make it uncomfortable.

When you purposely choose to:

  • Do good quietly (starving it of praise)
  • Accept criticism without defending (bruising its image)
  • Work without worrying about the results (breaking its greed)

...you are effectively starving the monster. Every time you lean into that discomfort, a link in the chain snaps. You aren't losing yourself; you are weakening the grip of the "false self" to reveal the Real You—the Witness who was always free.

To lower your EQ, you have to change what you "feed."

The Ego stays strong as long as it gets what it wants. It weakens when you deny it the "food" of external validation.

HIGH EQ

Feeding the False Self

What the Ego Craves:

Praise & Popularity: Seeking the spotlight to feel "seen."

Constant Appreciation:

Needing a "thank you" or a "like" to feel worthy.

Total Comfort:

Avoiding anything that challenges your self-image.

Agreement & Alignment:

Only talking to people who confirm your beliefs.

Results-Obsessed:

Working only for the "fruits" or the reward.

LOW EQ

Realizing the True Self

What the Ego Fears:

Doing Good Quietly: Acting without needing anyone to know.

No Recognition:

Being okay when work goes unthanked.

Constructive Criticism:

Using "ego-bruises" as data for growth.

Counter-Views:

Welcoming challenges to your existing beliefs.

Karma Yoga:

Doing the work for the sake of the work itself.

The Strategy: "Starve the Ego, Feed the Soul"

When you do something good and tell no one, the Ego "shrinks" because it didn't get its reward.

When you listen to a counter-view without getting angry, the "Link" between your identity and your opinions is sliced.

Every time you choose a "Low EQ" behavior, you are moving away from the "Mask" and closer to the "Actor."

If you want to move toward your True Self, you must be willing to do things the Ego hates.

Why does criticism, failure or a "lack of likes" feel like a physical punch?

We've been taught that we are our thoughts and reputations. When those things are threatened, we feel like we are dying.

High EQ State

Your identity is "super-glued" to your mental noise. There is no space.

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Low EQ State

You observe the noise without being consumed by it. You are the screen, not the movie.

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Where do you stand?

High EQ Mid EQ Low EQ

High EQ

Super-Glue

Every thought is a fact. Every insult is a wound.

Mid EQ

Post-it Note

You feel the sting, but you can "peel" away after a while.

Low EQ

Teflon

You see the noise, you act with focus, but nothing "sticks."

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From "The Character" to "The Witness"

The goal of Ego Quotient isn't to become a robot. It's to become a Warrior.

By lowering your EQ, you free up the energy you used to spend defending your "image" and use it for action.

This is the "Strategy of the Sword"

Slicing the link between who you are and what you think.

Ready to lower your EQ?

The journey to a lower EQ involves practical wisdom and consistent practice. At VedikMind, we share the timeless teachings of Vedanta and the modern insights of masters like Swami Vivekananda to help you find your way back to the "Witness"

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